I. Talk about the other children, on both
teams, in the same manner you would like other parents to talk about your
child. This is the GOLDEN RULE applied to all sports. Watching kid’s
sports tends to be a social affair. When you’re having a conversation on
the sideline with your friends and neighbors, think about what you’re
saying before you actually say it. To always be on the safe side,
only voice praise for all of the children. That way, you’ll never go
wrong.
II. It’s nice to give the coach a pat on the back
when he or she wins. It’s even nicer to do it after a loss. Remember, the
vast majority of coaches are volunteers who are sacrificing their own time
to help your child. Give them a well deserved salute, especially if
the team hasn’t fared too well.
III. Don’t hesitate to give the referee/umpire a
pat on the back either. As you may be aware, they are people too. They also
like it when parents and fans acknowledge their on-field efforts. Why don’t
you lead the way?
IV. Remind your child that it’s the effort that
counts. We all know that kids want to win. That’s a given. However, for
every winning team, there’s also a losing team. Be prepared to cushion
your child’s disappointment after a loss by pointing out that he or she
played hard and put forth a tremendous effort.
V. Avoid the post-game analysis. When the
game is over and your child climbs back into your car, avoid at all costs
the detailed, excruciating post-game analysis of everything he or she did
right and wrong. Let them "chill out", savor the fun of having
played, and relax. The absolute worst time for "friendly
criticism" is immediately after the game.
VI. SMILE. A lot. Kid’s
sports are about having fun, and because kids take their behavioral cues
from you, try to at least look like you’re enjoying yourself.
VII. If parents aren’t a good sport at the games,
the kids won’t either. This should be self-evident. If you set a pattern
of being a sideline loudmouth who likes to yell and scream at the ref,
coach, or opposing team, don’t be surprised when your kids start to copy
your behavior. You will only have yourself to blame.
VIII. Take the time to learn the rules of the game.
Many kids these days are playing sports you may not be familiar with. If you
don’t know the rules, why don’t you and your child learn them together.
Besides, it’s always a good idea to read the rule book. It just might help
in settling a dispute. (Plus, nothing is more embarrassing than to complain
about a call, only to be wrong in your complaint because you don’t know
the rules.)
IX. If you must make noise at games, shout only
praise and encouragement. If you’re a screamer and yeller, make sure that
when you open your mouth, you’re only pouring forth cheerful encouragement
for your child’s team. There is never a place for derogatory, snide
or sarcastic comments at kid’s games. Plus, it is extremely embarrassing
for your child to see you making a fool of yourself at the game in front of
his or her teammates and friends.
